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Reviews Write a review. Filter reviews. Traveler rating. Excellent Very good 5. Average 1. Poor 0. Terrible 0. It hurts deeply. Expressing my feelings in writing has been most helpful, even if the letters are not all sent. Hi Mikel, It is so unbelievably painful to be rejected by a parent.
Keep expressing your feelings and maybe even work with a counselor for a while. Coming to terms with this takes time. And this has been going on for years. I feel so depressed and discouraged that it seems to me I have no chance of finding and living from my passion. Thank you for your patience and for your wonderful posts!
With lots of gratitude, Iulia from Romania. Dear Lulia, First, thank you so much for your kind comments and your willingness to share your story. I am so very sorry about the difficulties you are experiencing with your family. It is so sad that your parents want to shame, control, and humiliate you when they could have a loving, happy relationship with you and your children.
You are employed in a very valuable, honorable profession. They should be proud of you. Lulia, they are still treating you like a child and trying to tell you how to live your life. But you have a choice not to be a child anymore, even if they treat you like one.
You DO have a voice and can express to them that their unsupportive, hurtful comments are no longer acceptable to you. This may make them mad or offend them, but they will realize you have boundaries they are not allowed to cross. You must reclaim your life and find other relationships with friends who do love and support you as you are. I know it is deeply painful to feel so rejected by those who should love you the most.
But your choice is to live this way forever or to decide to disengage from their hurtful presence and live happily. This reply speaks to me. My boyfriend and I have built a house together and his mother took upon herself to be the general contractor. She has also taken it upon herself to do things in the house that we have voiced time and time again that we do NOT want.
She is very manipulative and if you speak your mind to her she says you are not obeying thy father and mother. Thanks for your articles. Hi Barrie, I have little conflict with none other than my beloved wife. Two weeks back we are blessed with a baby boy. I am trying my level best to give a great blessed turn to our relationship. We are separate since last six months. Even now she is not with me and Baby is with her only but I am trying to keep all emotional and other support. My heart says that she will realize my love and will come back.
I am now focusing on listening to her and giving unbiased suggestions thus cleared her many confusions. I pray and spread love and very hopeful for better life to bloom. I feel really great reading your insight. Keep the great work. Thanks, Ranjeet. Hi Ranjeet, Congratulations on being a new father. And I think you are doing the right things.
Right now your wife needs your support and unconditional love. Keep reminding her of your love and help her with your new baby. I hope she will come back too. Have you both considered marriage counseling?
My mums saids it exactly half half, so why does he want my half,. I draw bright lines. They draw dotted lines and then cross them. Hi Beth, You are the only person who knows what YOU can tolerate in your relationship with your father.
Thank you for opening my eyes to the fact that there is not necessarily something wrong with me. But just knowing that I am not alone has been a huge source of comfort today. Hi there, You are definitely not alone sadly. It is mind-boggling how parents will hurt their children and emotionally abuse them. You are right, animals give unconditional love. You are totally lovable and worthy of kindness and support. I hope you can find other people in your life who can offer that to you.
I was thinking you must have been reading my mind, as just last night I was grieving, and wondering how to move forward. Thank you for your insight. It is so painful. Nice article, Barrie — helpful and caring information. So many people have these family troubles and I think your words will give them hope. Thank you Barrie. I needed this article. Like so many other readers I too felt alone on this issue.
I struggle with feeling unloved and unloveable. You must accept who they are and protect yourself from pain. Surround yourself with other loving people. Thank you so much for this article! I discovered some of these items on my own a couple of years ago.
But it is so wonderful to have someone else validate them! I glad I found this site.. My mom has torn the family of nine apart she makes us each one of us hate each other by her lies. Out of nine , I talk to 4 now.
My mom is 77 years old and lies all the time and was very abused when I was younger. My mom was liked that to all her kids , except the last two. My mom still to this day is mentally abusing. I learned to forget, but again she lied and hurt me and pinned me against my oldest sister. So I am done with her, I am emotionally and mentally drained.
I have my own family , who loves me. While I am at school mile away from home it can be hard to stay in contact with my family.
I make a conscious effort to stay in contact. You mention how to handle communication with a difficult member, but I think it is great when we can see the signs and prevent relationships from crumbling in the first place too. Hey there! Just wanted to say keep up the great job! What an excellent article!! I grew up in an extremely dysfunctional family like so many others. My mother got pregnant, married the guy, gave birth to my sister….
We moved in with my grandparents until she met a service man Ted home on leave from the service…She had a blind date with him in Sept. I was terrified of him, my sister would try and stand up to him. I stayed as far away from him as I could. My mother and Ted had 2 children together and he always treated them nicer than he treated us. There was always a lot of tension in our house and we were far from the warm and loving family I had hoped.
So here we are …. Ted has dementia…. Mother is zoned out on valium dealing with Ted and all the family squabbling. I had a financial crisis 3 years ago and had no where to turn except my parents. They lent me money to get back on my feet but my younger sister found out about it because Ted told everyone and started sending me nasty, hateful texts.
I had to change my cell number several times. I asked her to stop but she continued on making fun of my financial situation and just plain nasty stuff. She blocked me on Facebook and no longer speaks to me. I live far away from my family…. My 2 sisters are bullies…have always been bullies and I am the sensitive, compassionate type and far from perfect! I have been beside myself with the hurt they have inflicted on me but after reading this article, I am seeing a new light at the end of the tunnel.
I cannot tell you how much better I feel after reading this article…I plan on following your web sight from now on!! We always argue about everything and they believe I am the one with the problem. Please help any way you can thank you for listening to my current living nightmare. I am having some major issues with my younger sister, She and I are 8 years apart and have been at each others throats for the past two and half years, ever since I had my son, she has been on a mission to destroy all of my parenting.
She finally moved out and is on her own, but EVERY time she is back at the house she attacks me verbally, emotionally, and mentally. This morning was just another example of an outburst that triggered an un-wanted attack from her. She was upset that I was making noise up-stairs last night due to my son having a sore throat.
It got so bad that my father finally got involved and told us to knock it off. Every time she has an outburst I walk away. She feeds on that- and then stands back to laugh at me.
Thank You. I would try to stay away from her as much as possible. And if you are forced to be together, do not engage with her behavior. Walk away as you said. If she becomes physically abusive, let her know that the next time it happens, you will call the police. Then follow through if it happens again. Thank You so much for the advice. I will try to stay away from her as much as possible. Is there any way besides avoiding her that will work. The last question I have for you- She is showing symptoms of possible antisocial personality disorder.
How can I deal with her, without it coming to blows. Besides walking away?? Thank You again!! Hi, I see I am not alone in having the pain of an unloving family. I am 40 years old and have struggled with this throughout my entire life. From being born in to the world as an unwanted pregnancy with a drug abusing father and a mother who rejected and resented having to raise me. After I ingested my fathers lsd pills at the age of 3 and was traumatized by that my childhood was not the same, I was not normal and had many obstacles to overcome.
My childhood was further spent being the outsider when my mother remarried. She loved her husband and not me. I went in to states custody eventually and was treated again unfairly and unkindly.
I married a man who constantly criticized me, berated me, and was never around much. I had 3 children with him, two of which are now grown, and almost grown. Guess what-they treat me horrible too. My oldest had a baby at 19 moved back home and expected me to wait on her hand and foot while i am trying to hold down a full time job and care for my ten year old son.
She would talk down to me and yell at me constantly even though i didnt raise her with that kind of emotion or disrespect. Then her boyfriend comes to stay with us and he acts like he owns the place, criticizes her brother, tries to refuse us to answer if her brother calls her phone, talks bad about our family members, takes what ever he wants around the house and then expects me to answer to him if i need to borrow my daughters phone to pay my phone bill etc.
I also thought the place i worked was like family but no, when i had a heart attack 6mos ago i got written up after that because i missed work. Then my child got sick and i got sick after that 6months later and they fired me 5 days before Christmas stating when i got written up after coming back to work after my heart attack and heart infection was my warning. I loved that job, i was in child welfare, and they just kicked me to the curb like that knowing my health was not good.
I had just been diagnosed 3 weeks before i was fired with another bone tumor-the doctors told me it was benign. And i had a neck injury and in need of back surgery but now i have no insurance for that and was working in pain for several months.
They got home and my teenage son took off immediately, and my daughter and her boyfriend just said here watch our child while we go out, then gave me a hard time when i asked them to bring me back a soda on their way home.
The boyfriend does it on purpose. I finally told him today they needed to move. She called my daughter around christmas and said we could all go to dinner with them somewhere but after 3 years of not hearing from her except to criticize me for things like not affording to buy my daughter braces etc i just was not in the mood to deal with that either. This is what life is?!?
My heart goes out to you and the sadness and difficulties you are dealing with. I hope you will read more of the articles her on live bold and bloom. My 24 year old daughter can be very mean to me.
They both have very little respect for me. In spite of that I still try to be kind to them and include them in activities from time to time, but they do not return the kindness. This site is new to me but I really appreciate it. Hi I am a 6th old mother and granny I am at the end of my tether with the antics of my only and younger sister.
She is 14 hrs younger than me. I cared for her while mum and dad were out working, taking her to child minder, going to school, then picking her up to home after school. At 17th I got married, was a mum at 18th. By my sisters 11th birthday, our dad died, mum could not cope with4 my sister or Financial. I think at this point, my sister made mum redundant and me and my family took on mums role. Lots of things happened over the intervening years , my sister moved her boyfriend in at the age of Whilst I had a large part in their lives, my mum was always kept at arms length by her.
There had been a lot of resentment from her against mum. For many years now, I have had to walk on eggshells around her. She would fall out with me for the or make me feel that it was me who had fallen out with her silliest thing, petty and trivial. I have always been the one to compromise, say sorry.
I end up feeling guilty and stressed, she acts the martyr. Then she tells me she loves me, and we are on, until the next time. We paid for every thing. My sister took offence at not being invited, she took it out on mum, but never said anything to me. About a month before going on holiday, she announced to mum then me that she was coming with us. The holiday was a disaster, she came with one of her children, gave no consideration to me or mum.
She had to be the centre of attraction, she even began to tell our cousins that mum loved me more than her, amongst other lies. On the journey home, she avoided us in the airport and the plane. Since we got home, mum put the phone down on her a few days after returning, she was so upset about past treatment from my sister and the holiday.
I got the blame by mobile text, I was so hurt and upset, I did not reply.. This all happened 7 months ago. That ni The mum phoned and told her not to go near her ever again. Guess who got the blame? Yes, me another nasty text, saying she would never forgive me as long as she would never forgive me as long as she lives for run in her relationship with her mum.
Later that night my niece text me with a very abusive text blaming me and her gran for the disgusting treatment of her er mother. I tried to explain to my niece that her mother had sent me nasty texts and had told me to keep away from her and her children. She was not interested, I have not heard from any of them Ince, neither has mum. Must add that my whole family have told me for years that my xix ter has used me for years, by taking her children at the least notice, to let her go away with her boyfriends etc.
Hi Barrie! Thank you for this awesome forum and for those sharing through posts. I believe that nothing just happens. Yep, a lifetime! The bottom line is this; when I came into the world only one came out of the box, when I leave it there will be only 1 in the box! Life is shorter than we think, there is no time for confusion. In essence, we must all discover our personal truths what am I here for? I practice being a 1Corinthians 13 Chapter woman. I love myself unconditionally!
Thanks for this. To make a long story short, we grew up together under the care of my grandmother and my two parents. We were very close. Then my youngest brother was born and my grandmother was sent to a home and my brother started bullying me through high school and I moved for college.
When I came back, my brother flat-out hated me. I was attempting to better my life by going to college out of state at a great school that focused in what I needed to focus in.
It was a good, positive decision that had nothing to do with his worth. I explained this to him, and I came home every month even if it was expensive. I tried to call, but he never answered. He blamed the near-destruction of our family on me because I told the truth and tried to get him help. And when I finally came home to try to mend things with him, he just completely ignored me and put me down … until he needed me.
He said that if I wanted to get closer to him and mend things, then this was the way to do it. We would be living together, so we could bond and have fun, etc. However, the first night in the new apartment, he screamed at me in front of our little brother, my fiance, and his girlfriend.
My fiance had to stand between us. And then came the two and a half years we lived together. Everyone called me stupid, but I wanted it to work. One of the saddest moments was when I won tickets to a Broadway show I had been wanting to see for years. We had two extra, so we gave them the extra two.
They showed up, angry and freaking out because we wanted to get there at an early time. They made me cry in line with their scary, mean comments. Another thing that happens is every Saturday, they take my youngest brother and his friend to Red Robin to get food. And the few times we gave up our Saturday to go, they just belittled me and him the whole time, calling us stupid and ridiculous. One night, he got so mad that he pounded on my bedroom door and taunted and screamed and threatened until he heard me getting on the phone with my dad to come over and stop him.
Then he high-tailed it and my dad had to cut him off in the parking lot to give him a stern heart-to-heart. They threw a fit. I signed. And I just moved out as of Monday. But now my brother wants us to get along again, for the sake of our parents. I guess the biggest grievance is that my fiance and I would sing Disney songs together in the hallway.
Maybe it is all my fault. I had a nightmare last night about him coming into my new place and not leaving and yelling at me. But I am sad for my parents, because I love my parents and they are trying to keep neutral through all of this. Thanks for writing this, and thanks for taking the time to read my reply.
What have I learnt from all this, I have learnt what kind of parent I never want to be, I treasure the family I now have in my life, my father is now in the too hard basket. Reading all the comments above I feel for all of you, always value yourself and as hard as it is focus on the good people in your life. God Bless xx. Hi Annie, Wow, you did have a lot of trauma in your childhood. Sometimes it makes me wonder why I even bother and it upsets me that I have almost no confidence in myself because of how self centred and mean she has become.
I keep hoping things will change between us but its hard to imagine as my mum has become a very bitter and miserable person. I am not sure what to say, other than this has made me less alone. My mother has continued to bully me my entire life and I wish I was stronger. There is absolutely no acknowledgement of her own destructive capabilities. It is so subtle, yet so overwhelmingly powerful. Are there support groups for women with such poisonous mothers? I want to succeed in life, yet I have continued to fall victim to her.
I hate myself. Today I feel so anxious and troubled when I hear the news that my brother is coming to Denver to visit from Hong Kong. Which it means the family gathering that I have to meet with my father a liar, and a person with a mask , and my older sister, a narcissist my brother, who think women are nothing, men are the king.
I immigrant to U. I am the youngest in the family, and I have never had any doubt the character of my parents. My mother is in the nursing home now, she is a wonderful mother, but she have verbally abused by my father many years in the past. I have studied hard and worked hard in the U. I even sponsored my parents come to the U. I just wanted to take care of them and wish them happy. I was a real estate agent, and I worked many hours.
Due to my parents do not speak English, and they do not know how to drive. Besides long hours of work, I have to take them to shopping, visit doctors, cook for them, clean the house for them….
I also helped my older sister when she was 2nd time divorced 12 years ago. She has no place to live, and I let her to live with me. I gave her my clothing and food…In the end, I find out that she go thru all my staff when I was at work. I was really hurt and angry. From the letter, I find out that my father have a lot of money. He never offered to pay when we go to the restaurant; he never offered to help me for my mortgage, and utility bills.
I was really hurt when I saw this letter. I realized that my father has used me as a stepping stone to the U. S… He pretend that he have no money, and he does not tell me anything about his assets.
They lied to the government that he has no money. I do not want to see him again. Now, he calls me only if he needs anything from me. Which means I have to deal with my brother in the future. Basically, I do not trust these family members, they live too long in China, money is their God.
Since I helped my family immigrant here in U. I used to be a happy and successful real estate agent. Now, I am burned out by my family, and I can no longer to work. I become traumatized person. I just wanted to cry when I write to you at this moment. I was Google and try to find some help in the internet, then, I saw your article. Please help me; do I need to meet these evil people?
How can I cope? Daughters are worthless…Unfortunately, your brother knows too well. You are right about not going to have dinner with them will cause many problems for you. I would just go and pretend they are your demanding clients and smile. Since they can act toward you, you should do the same.
Do not let them know you are hurt by them. Try to be their friend because you have to deal with your brother later. Find good friends who is there for you. I know blood is thicker than water, but it really depends on what kind of blood…good luck! Thank you for putting in words how I undertook my own estrangement from my Mom and siblings. I sometimes struggle with the disassociation. I also stopped communicating to my nieces and nephews.
Not out of spite but out of love and respect for their own family ties. It is not my place to drag in the children and speak disparaging things about their parents or grandmother. I do not have any children and always felt blessed that I was loved by my extended family.
However you do find out how people or family are in their darkest times and how it goes against your sensibility and you really cannot align yourself with their actions to the point it is physically making you ill. You conclude you need to separate yourself from the nastiness because their path and your path in life are at the extreme opposite poles. Peace does not come in the shape of all peaceful on the family front, it starts in your mind and your heart.
My stepmother is very controlling and has bullied me for 40 years. She also, at times, has been very good to me. I finally had enough of the way she was treating, speaking to and using me, and have walked away from her. Usually I just apologize even when I have done nothing wrong, to smooth things over and for the sake of my relationship with my Dad. I feel such guilt for abandoning him at a time like this. I feel I should have hung in there just a little longer.
However, with his increasing dependency, so has she turned up the level of abuse of me and my brother. I also feel such loss and sadness.
Shame on her for being so cruel to you and your Brother. I am a step Mom and I wish I had the opportunity to be in my step kids life I would cherish them.
Poor children of divorce have already been through enough. Maybe their is something you could do legally to see your Father. One of my Husbands kids have decided they want to get to know me and I am delighted.
I am so sorry you have a mean ugly person for a Step Mom. Pray for your Father and stay away from the witch. I stopped having any contact with people relatives or not that are toxic. I put up with toxic people for way too long never again. I have more peace in my life then I have ever had.
I also have a very aggressive brother. Most of the time he expresses hi hostility towards me when no else is there to witness it. I am 57 and he is I have been verbally abused and threatened by him so frequently. I am single, no kids, had health problems and bounced back without a shred of support from him. Why he takes such liberties with me I have no idea. An old friend of mine told me to not let people treat me in a disrespectful manner.
The last time I spoke with him on the phone he was so nasty to me and then he hung up. I believe he expected me to apologize and call him back. I did nothing wrong. I sent him a text stating that if he could not speak to me in a respectful manner, I would not speak with him at all.
He never called back. This is not an isolated incident. I realize it is his problem but I still think he is a mean bully. So I skip the family gatherings because I will not let myself be the target of his rage.
I do not know why I am treated so poorly as I have done a lot to help my family over the years. It is sad, but I will not be treated like a doormat. It is too bad that everyone but me can have fun at these events.
When I had a boyfriend I was always treated better because they were to ashamed to treat me badly in front of others. That is why I know they know what they are doing. They just do not care about my feelings. Shame on them. I do not attend many family functions.
I feel really bad about your situation but if you can get a video of your sister being nasty to you , you can show them evidence. Also speak to a Counsellors about your step dad if he is being abusive. I think he is trying to provoke you to doing something so he can report you to authorities.
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